Getting Out of a Rut

So what exactly does it mean to be in a rut? Well, number one is if you feel like you're stuck, you feel like you're not moving forward, but you're conscious and aware that you can be doing so much better. You're in a rut. What get's us in a rut? Well, pretty much what we choose to focus on. We might have been let down from all our results that we are not getting. We could be overwhelmed. Typically we're focusing on what's not working really well in our life. That just beats us down. You know it might take a month, it might take a week, depending, but eventually it just gets you down. And then you don't do much. You're still active, but you're disappointed because you know you can be doing so much better. 

So that's what puts us in a rut. So the question is, how do you get out of a rut? It's like eating an elephant. I don't eat to many elephants. I don't know if you do, it's more of a metaphor. You can't eat an elephant with one bite. That's what most people do to try to get out of a rut. Everyone wants to go really really fast. We put too much on our plate and can't get it done which results to frustration. Which ultimately keeps us in a rut. 

So the strategy I recommend with my clients that I am coaching, is start doing the little things. I mean the real small things that give you some momentum. Yeah, initially you're going to beat yourself up, and say, “So what this was so small who cares”. You can't have that voice anymore. You need to do the little things. Start telling yourself, “That was pretty good, I did that!” Then you move on to the next task... Then the next task... You start accumulating some progress, and it starts to feel pretty good. 

You might not even want to admit it, but you're going to think this feels pretty good. What will happen when you take little steps? You’ll start taking action and you’ll also start noticing other things to do. Your focus will begin to change for the better. You’ll start building some momentum up. When you're feeling good you’ll shift into the good energy. Once that happens you can put a little bit more on your plate. Then you can start redefining between tasks and your goals. You get the picture? We all want to move forward and make progress. However the ultimate goals is to achieve life results. 

So if you're in a rut don’t stay there. I hope that strategy works for you. Just remember to become aware that you are in a rut. You need to get in action and start to move even if it means on small actions. 

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How To Stay Focused

How to Stay Focused

If I had a dime for every client that told me that they can’t stay focused, I'd be a millionaire.  So often that's what I hear from my clients. They tell me, “I can’t stay focused” or “How do I stay focused?”  I want to address this issue and give you some strategy to break this block.  First you really don't have a problem focusing.  It's just a matter of what you're focusing on.  You find yourself somewhat distracted, you’re focusing on a lot of different things.  The real issue below what you’re focusing on are your limitations.  You have limiting beliefs about your ability so the process is I'll keep changing my mind, keep focusing on different things so I can distract myself.

So this is what you need to do, first understand you have a limiting belief. You may not know it consciously but it is there and it's holding you back.  And it's making you focus on too many things.  If you really want real power, you have to channel your energy.  You probably understand and realize this already. So you need to bring to the surface your limiting beliefs. How you elicit those, bring them out, is set a really huge goal.  Hey if you're making $30,000 a year, put a goal out there to make $300,000 a year.  And what's going to happen is you’re going to just feel all the fears and limitations come to the surface, the I can't, it's not possible, I'm not educated, I'm too old, I'm too young.  It all comes to the surface.  

So once again, how you draw out the limitations from your subconscious mind all of our limiting stuff is you have to set a big goal. A goal that you would love to achieve but there's a lot of doubt.  All of that stuff comes out.  You start identifying them.  Write them down.  You probably weren’t aware of them in that moment, but as you set a big goal it will start coming through, coming out of you.  You need to take note of these limitations.  Capture those limitations.  There’s a real simple process is to eliminate. You need to associate with the pain if you choose to live with this limitation. Take the limiting belief you’ve identified and get very associated to what life would look like 1 year out and go out as far as you wish - 30 years. You need to associate to the pain that this is holding you back in your life.  

See it's not that you can’t focus.  The real underlying issue is you have limitations.  

You have limiting beliefs holding you back. The behavior we have is we keep changing our minds, focusing on different things.  Set a big goal, let all the feelings come up.  Take note of those, and choose if I live with this limitation way out into the future, what’s life going to look like.  Associate to the pain.  After you do that, create a new empowering belief, a belief that gets you so excited.  If the present belief is “I can't do this” or “I'm too young”. Make the new belief, “I have all of the energy” or “I'm in the perfect place of my life”.  Create a new empowering belief and now see what that belief does down the road a year, three, five or 10 years.  It gives you a different feeling.  Keep doing this process.  

All you’re doing is you’re flushing out all the garbage and then you're replacing it with a new empowering belief.  This is a daily ritual.  It will change the way you feel.  You'll begin to become more focused on what you really want to do in your life. You’ll start to have breakthroughs and begin to play bigger in life.. So enjoy, live with joy and happiness.  To all your success. Learn more and Discover Your Greatest Life online audio coaching program!

How to Achieve Your Goals in Less Than 30 Days

How to Achieve Your Goals in Less Than 30 Days

Hi. This is Darryl Jarmosco, and in this video I’m going to show you how to achieve your goals in less than 30 days, so stay tuned. You can achieve whatever you’d like to do in as little as 30 days. Whether you’re looking to achieve your dreams or you’re looking to achieve goals in your career, at work, in your relationships, it can be done in as little as 30 days. You just need to have a different way to approach it.

Ok, so here’s the deal. People can look at it and say can you really achieve goals in as little as 30 days or even less? And I say absolutely. And I’m not trying to play a game, this isn’t some BS. Here’s the deal, most people are good at setting goals.  I shouldn’t say most, but people can set goals.   My clients have told me day in and day out, Darryl I can set the goals. The problem is I come out of the gates, I’m really excited, and then I’m just kind of poo- poo. I fall apart. That’s their pattern. They do that over and over and over, and it gets really frustrating. 

So here you go. Take a look at my arm so I can get it all the way in there. There it is. How long is my arm? It’s not very long. The point is you have to have a goal within arm’s reach. I used to keep saying that over and over and over. So yes you can set a goal for where you want to be 12 months from now or further.  But the further it goes out we start to forget about it. The accountability starts to drop.  So what we need to do is keep it right in our face. That’s what we need to do. 

So take a goal. Let’s say it was a money goal or a health goal. You’ve got to get really clear on the goal. Then also you have this whole where do I need to be in say 30 days? So if I wanted to lose 24 pounds, what would that look like 30 days from now? Do the math. That means I would have to lose 2 pounds in the next 30 days.  So in our heads that works so much easier. Losing 24 pounds a year from now or 12 months from now verses losing 2 pounds in the next 30 days, all of a sudden the mindset shifts.  You’re more accountable, game on, and you’re more likely to get that momentum going. You achieve it in 30 days.  You celebrate because it feels good that you actually accomplished just a piece of the goal. But you’ve got that momentum going. 

So if you want to achieve your goals, you may have to change your approach to how you’re doing it.  You can achieve goals in less than 30 days. It’s not a game being played here, it’s real. You just have to come up with a clear goal. If it’s a goal that’s way out there, a year or two years out, where do I need to be in a portion of it? Where do I need to be in 30 days, because it is real results.  It’s not your ultimate result, I understand that. But it’s a piece of it. And you have to go through that piece anyway to get to the next one to get to your ultimate goal. 

So you can achieve a goal or results in as little as 30 days. It will keep your energy completely excited. So here’s your action plan right here. What I would like you to do is write down a clear goal, what you want to do, a money goal, weight goal, eating better goal, relationship goal, whatever it is.  And if it goes beyond, if it’s a six month goal or beyond, just work it out, prorate it so to speak at what it will look like every 30 days. Get really focused on that first 30 days. Get excited about it and then get your plan put together and then you execute.  I’ve seen it work over and over and over. Ok.

So with that you can achieve it in 30 days. You just need to change your approach. You need to change the way you were doing it and I think this new way will certainly help you, it’ll keep your energy up, keep you excited about it, and you’ll start building some massive momentum and get some results in your life and keep you going forward. 

So with that I’m glad you stayed with me in this video. Once again, if you liked my video, please like it. Don’t keep me a secret. Go ahead and share this video with your friends, your family, Facebook, wherever you want to.  And I’m so welcoming any of your comments.  Either it’s a cool video Darryl, or hey I have a question for you, or I would like to see this in a future video.  I welcome all your comments so please go ahead and do that as well. So with that we’ll see you on the next video. 

Do You Want the Secrets on How to Gain Self Confidence?

Do You Want the Secrets on How to Gain Self Confidence?

  

Pssst.  Come here, a little closer. I have a secret. Do you want the secrets to gain self-confidence? Hi, this is Darryl Jarmosco and I’m personally very happy you’re here with me today. Today I want to share 5 secrets on how to gain self-confidence. And a great way to remember on how to gain self-confidence is the 5 P’s. Alright are you ready? Take some notes.

Secret number 1 to gain self-confidence is point of reference.  That’s right, point of reference. Stop wasting time giving all the energy to what’s not working. Now right now, think of a time when you did something that was really awesome. So maybe you played basketball or baseball or soccer, you can tell I like sports, or any other sport, and you did really well. Maybe it was just in practice, maybe it was in the game. The thing is you gained confidence in that moment in the sport. Or it was career-related and you gained confidence at work. We all have a point of reference in our lives where it will help us gain confidence in the moment. We just have to use that point of reference. It’s all there inside of us. 

Secret number 2 to gain self-confidence is the power of focus.  Energy flows where focus goes.  Hey, I think you can tweet that if you’d like. Focusing on what’s bad, you’re not going to gain self-confidence.  Now if you focus on what’s great, that will gain self-confidence.  And along with focus is don’t allow yourself to get distracted.  Here’s a scenario. I live in the mid-west of America, Fairfield, Iowa, the field of dreams. Well after a cold winter, my family we head towards this beautiful lake called Lake Michigan where there are beaches.  The lake is beautiful. We have a lot of summer fun.  It’s easy to lose focus so don’t get distracted. That puts your confidence down. 

Alright, secret number 3 to gain self-confidence is the power of vision.  In your mind’s eye, see what you want.  I mean see what you want to see. See success. It’s that easy.  Psychologists have taken athletes, let’s just say a track athlete, and they’ve studied their brain when they were doing their sport.  So they were running around the track and they were studying their brain to see which part of their brain was being activated. They’d take that same athlete, they’d sit them down in the lab. They’d say now just in your mind’s eye, do that exact same thing. Do the sport upstairs and just think it through. And they were once again watching the brain and seeing where it’s activated.  They’re identical from the time that they’re out on the track to the time they’re just sitting in the lab not even moving just thinking about seeing themselves do the sport. The brain was activated the same way. That’s the power of vision.

Secret number 4 to gain self-confidence is the power of clarity. Get clear on what you want. I’m going to say it again, get clear on what you want. I know for me personally, when I have a clear target, my energy goes through the roof. When I’m not clear I literally have my confidence drop. So you have to be clear on what it is you’re going after. 

Secret number 5 on how to gain self-confidence is the power of thoughts.  Take control of your thinking, your conscious thinking. Listen. Listen to that voice inside. What is it telling you? Is it beating you up telling you that you can’t do this? See every day we’re selling ourselves on either what we can do or what we can’t do. So start selling yourself on what’s possible, what you can do. That’s a conscious effort that you have to put into every single day. 

Remember to build self-confidence, confidence is the emotional feeling. That means every single day it needs effort. And here are 5 strategies on how to gain self-confidence. Once again, the point of reference, the power of focus, the power of vision, the power of clarity, and the power of thought, 5 simple easy strategies for you to gain self-confidence.  

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How To Stop Procrastination

How to Stop Procrastination 

Hi, this is Darryl Jarmosco and I am a life coach. And a very common area that I help my clients is in procrastination. So, I'd love to have the opportunity to help you as well. Do you realize that 20% of people identify themselves as chronic procrastinators?  Hey, college seems to do a really good job over there on procrastination; 70% of students identify themselves as procrastinators. 

So what is procrastination or what is chronic procrastination?  Well, number one, it’s people that put things off, some serious things, things that have consequences. If you've ever put off your taxes, your income taxes, and you're just behind in that. If you are constantly late on paying your bills and maybe you get late charges. Or you need to go to the bank to put money in and you don't put the money in and you might bounce a check.  I mean things that have serious consequences. 

But it's also the same thing as you're just always behind. In regards to projects that you have, you seem to wait until the very last minute and then you get all stressed out. That's procrastination.  So here's what I really want to have you understand. There are effects to procrastination. Number one is it weakens the immune system. It keeps you up at nighttime. It keeps you awake. You don't sleep so well. You keep putting things off and it sends that stress through your body. When you're late on things, you don't realize it but it's more stress. Those stress hormones going through your body and it wears you out so much faster. 

And speaking of wearing out, it wears out relationships.  You know, it burdens others.  It begins for them to start labeling you as an unreliable person. But there is good news. Number one is procrastinators are made not born.  I want to say that again. Procrastinators are made, not born. So the good news is it's learned response. It’s a learned behavior. And what's learned can be unlearned. So that's the good news. Here's the challenge is if you've been procrastinating, this has been in your system. This has been a program that you’ve been running on for a while. It takes focused energy to change, and that's not always easy for people.  However, I've been really fortunate with my coaching with my clients is we’ve created some change. 

So you're watching this video right now and I would love for you to get more videos, the actual tips I go through, simple tips. So what you need to do is on this video right here, this web page, is put your name and email in the appropriate spot and just hit submit. And then you'll get those. Now if you've stumbled upon this video, I’m glad you did. But you're not going to be able to register. So you're saying well where is this web page?  So on this video right here you can see there's a web link typed across it, it's not a live link so you'll have to go ahead and take this and put it into your web browser, and it'll take you to the web page where you can actually get registered. 

Another note here is I have this anti-spam policy. So you're going to need to confirm.  There is an email that I will send out to you in order to get the video. So use a primary email. Don't put a bum email in just trying to get the videos.  If you don't really want them, then don't even register.  But I'm here to really serve people and I protect, I don't do anything with the names and emails that I get. But you will get an email from me once you’re registered and you're going to have to confirm that in order to give me permission to go ahead and send you the emails.  So I just wanted to bring that to your attention.

So the questions is, are you ready to get those simple and effective strategies?  I hope you are. So if you're ready to become that person who you really are at the core, remember you weren't born this way, this is a learned behavior. So if you want to get stuff done, and most importantly, if you want to start getting results in your life, get registered.  Go on the web page which is www.ProcrastinatingNoMore.com  Once again www.ProcrastinatingNoMore.com. And if you’re actually on the web page here, go ahead and put your name and email in and go ahead and click submit. Once again, my name is Darryl Jarmosco and I will see you on the other side.

Tools for positive energy for life

I recently had a coaching session with a client. He mentioned a fews years back life was tough. He expressed how he didn’t even feel like living. He wasn’t suicidal he was very down - depressed. Life had gotten heavy and from his perspective it defeated him. In our coaching session he said certain things can happen that bring the thoughts back. Thoughts come first and  then feelings. Your feelings are a direct reflection of what you’ve been thinking. 

His wife triggered some old thoughts and sure enough he gets really down. When his wife gets down and negative he attaches a meaning that he’s not doing good enough. He takes it personally, it’s his fault she’s feeling down. Our mind will take over and spiral down emotionally. He begins to look at all the bad things that aren’t working in his life. It doesn’t take long before he spirals down to feeling depressed.

Don’t let your program run. He had a wife who triggered his negative/depressing program. She’s not to blame at all. She’s not right to bring home negative energy but he must take responsibility for his own emotions. And that’s exactly what we did in our coaching session. I mentioned to him that every person needs to feed their mind with high level energy fuel.

Your probably thinking what the heck is high level energy fuel? Is it some sports drink? It’s consciously finding the positive in the world. Most of the time people are focusing on what’s not good. If we spend to much time focusing on the bad, we can find unhappiness very easily. I titled this chapter building new muscle because muscle is being built regardless. When we focus on what’s bad in life we’re building muscle (mental program) that tells us we can’t in life.

So we need to become conscious of the positive. Where in the world is the good thing happening. There are so many tools that you can use to create good emotions. How would it feel to be happy and have an exciting outlook on life? Every day! Holy cow would that be amazing or what? Well you can and you need to take over and drive the bus. So take control of your mind instead of having your mind take you over.

Here are some tools that will create great positive energy for life. The power of focusing. Choose what you focus on. Create a list of all the good things in life both personally and professionally. Be grateful every day. Ask the question, “What am I grateful for?” Speaking of questions that’s another great tool, ask empowering questions. Take 15 minutes every day to read a self improvement book. Journal every day on what was good in the day. Go on Youtube and search motivational or inspirational and watch the videos. Get in touch with your spiritual self.

So if you want new muscle you need to workout (mental muscle). You have 100% responsibility of your emotional well being. 

Are You Happy?

Five minutes had passed and my client had not called in for his coaching session. So I decided to call him, no answer. I left my usual message when a client doesn’t show on time. A couple days had passed and I hadn’t heard from him. On the third day, I received a call from his wife. When I answered my phone, I recognized his number on caller id but it wasn’t him. It was his wife.

Hearing her voice and not his confused me and I thought, “What is going on?”. She began by telling me she was a little behind in returning calls and apologized it took a couple days to get back to me. Then she told me why she was calling and not her husband. She told me her husband died in his sleep just a few day’s ago. I was floored by this news. I thought I just coached him last week. He was such a great person who had a wife a small child.

As she told me the news and replayed it over she became very emotional. She was still in shock herself. I was very sadden by the news and hurt for her and the child. Then she asked me a question. She had an understanding of the coaching process. She new our coaching relationship was open and her husband most likely shared his personal thoughts. She asked a few questions which of course I answered. Then there was a pause and she asked, “Was he happy?” 

Isn’t that the essence of life - happiness. She new her husband wasn’t able to take any of his possessions he had with him. However she wanted to know at his death was he happy in life.

Stop and think about your life for a moment. Are you happy? Do you know what makes you happy? We can get immersed in life and focus on to much. We often lose the true meaning of life. I’ve found so many people don’t live their truest values. I’ve also noticed people don’t know how to define happiness. We make it very difficult to be happy. We need to be very rich in order to be happy. Well what if you’re not rich with money? No happiness for you, yes - no?

Take a moment and write down what you really value in life. Make a list of at least 10 of your top values. If you value meaningful conversations then write it down. I’d recommend after your initial list to give it a day and come back. Do you still agree with your list. Now ask what would it take to live these values. Let’s use the meaningful conversations as an example. If your rule to live that value was to be able to speak with your closest relationships every day in person. Well what if they live halfway around the world?

Here’s the point, we have rules which determines our happiness. If your rule is to be in person with your closest friends but they don’t live near you. Do you see the problem? Don’t make happiness so difficult. Begin to live your values and keep the rules easy.

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