In the morning rituals

What's the first thing you do when you wake up? Does the first 30-45 minutes matter? I have had many coaching sessions with my clients about starting their day off on the right foot. I believe the first 30-45 minutes in the morning will have a direct result to the rest of the 15 hours your awake. I have found that having morning rituals will bring you happiness. Think about it..... What do you say when you first get out of bed? Oh, today is going to be such a long day... I hate...... You get the point. What you say has such a big impact on your day. You need morning rituals. This doesn't mean you need more time, you just need to change what you're doing with your time. First ask what emotion do you want the morning to set for the rest of the day. Then think about what rituals will support that emotion. Here are some strategies my clients do every morning; exercise, incantations, empowering questions, meditation, nutrition, clarity for the day, reading/listening to motivational materials. This is the short list however you get the idea. Discover your own morning rituals that will bring you happiness every day. Here are some resources to listen too and start your morning off on the right foot http://tinyurl.com/djihoover

Live with purpose, passion & potential

Darryl

Featuring Matt Hoover Winner of Biggest Loser 2005

Join me on Thursday, November 30th 8pm EST to hear what Matt Hoover did to lose 157lbs. Matt was an All American wrestler who went to the University of Iowa. He had such big hopes but after getting injured his career went in a tailspin. He turned to food and alcohol and before he knew it he weighed 339lbs. I'm excited to feature Matt to hear is story, his new found success. Join me to learn what he's doing to keep his life in order and successful. The registration website is http://tinyurl.com/djihoover

Make a REAL descision!

Who gave you the permission to be so mad?

Well who gave you the permission to be so upset? Think of the last time you were angry? Do you have the experience back in your body? Okay, is this a feeling you often experience? How often? Now what gives you the permission to be angry? Come on... think about it. Your telling yourself... what? I do all the work around here, he/she just doesn't care, they never listen and the list goes on forever. The point is we give ourselves permission to be angry (or any other unresourceful feeling) because we have this guiding belief it's okay. And, we think by going into this emotional state it will serve us. We'll get their attention, people finally take notice of me, etc. Is that true? Do you really get what you want? If you did why on earth do you still not feel fulfilled? The solution is very simple, you just have to let the feeling go... There's a 5 step plan from Hale Dwoskin which I'll blog on later. Until then just remember you don't have to be in that bad emotional state, let it go.

Plan your week and results will follow

I just wanted to make a quick comment on planning the week ahead. It's now Sunday evening and I'm reviewing the week ahead. I can't stress how important it is to plan out the week. You will get so much more accomplished and feel so much better. Once you do it and see the difference in your life you'll always do it. After planning your week out in advance for about a month this will become a habit. So start "planning tomorrow today" and you'll begin taking charge of your life.

Get Disturbed

The importance of setting goals!

When you say Yes your saying NO to something else...

In one of my recent coaching sessions my client said something that was very profound. He said, "If you say "yes" to X you're saying "NO" to Y". That really made a ton of sense to me. I've worked with so many people and so many of them seem overloaded. Being overloaded is stressful and overwhelming which isn't healthy or much fun. What we don't realize is that every "yes" means "no" to somthing else. It can also mean more to do in our life. So before you say "yes" decide what you're going to say "no" too. If you're stressed that's because with every "yes" you're not saying "no" to something else. This is a very simple strategy but effective and powerful. Think before saying "yes" and your life will be better.

What's your purpose?

I have found so many people squirm when asked the question, "What's your purpose?" Why is that? Why do we struggle with knowing our purpose? What's your ultimate purpose in life? Don't we just want to be "happy"? Isn't that the answer? We just want to be happy. Then why so much confusion and difficulty in finding our purpose? I have found that people say one thing however they do the opposite. Here's an example - I want more freedom, choice, time with my family and to make a difference. However, their making decisions every day that actually get themselves further from what they want. They accumulate more stuff expecting happiness.

We are given our purpose/dharma coming into this world (my belief). We go through life searching and seeking when it's already inside. We need to get aligned with our authentic self our divine spirit. If you choose to be happy every day and become unattached to things and more attached to who you are, happiness will be found. Lets face it, life is a journey and our creator wants us to experience life. We'll have victories and defeats, we need both to grow as conscious individuals.

What can you do today that will get you closer to your authentic self?

Web Radio Interview - Wayne Hurlbert

This was a very nice interview by Wayne on April 8, 2010. If you want to learn more about accomplishing your goals then listen to the interview.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/waynehurlbert/2010/04/09/darryl-jarmosco-map-of-intention

Thanks,

Live your mission.

Darryl

Happy Birthday Jaiden!!!!

Happy Birthday Jaiden! I love you with all my heart and you bring more meaning to life because of you. I'm a very blessed dad to have such an amazing daughter. Keep that beautiful smile and laughter going... I love you.

Celebrate TODAY!

My family recently went to Disney World in Orlando Florida. We've been there before (kinda spoiled) and it always amazes me. Everywhere you go the message is being put in front of you "Dreams come true". The question is how many people are listening? Celebrate today was posted everywhere you looked. What another great message to live by. Do you celebrate today or are you to caught up in life? Find a way to celebrate everyday under your own terms.

Money Can't buy you success

I have found the number one stressor in people’s lives is money. Over the last couple of years this has been devastating for so many people. What has been the real issue? Should the economy take the full blame? How about those financial institutions that gave the money for nothing to people who shouldn’t of had in the first place. Well we can play the blame game all day long. That won’t resolve anything.
I see it this way – everyone has taken their part in the situation. The people borrowing the money and the financial institutions are both responsible. The question is why? The answer is very simple – human needs. Money is a vehicle that helps people meet their needs. Money was so easy to borrow even though most weren’t qualified. Purchasing that bigger home gave that person the feeling of success. It made them feel significant which is a human need.
What can we learn from this financial disaster? Human needs need to be met at any cost. It’s so important to choose the right vehicle to meet our needs. Money can be a dangerous vehicle. It’s more of a false illusion of success or meeting the need of significance.
The real source of the issue is human emotion. Our emotions lead us to meet our needs. People want success which means a bigger house. The money was easily available so they grabbed it and purchased a home. Emotions are the source of our actions. We need to know how we’re meeting our needs. If you want to feel successful and significant find a vehicle that’s good for you and good for others.

Daily actions compound to success

Success comes one day at a time. I believe there’s so much mystery around success. I actually think people believe it is just going to knock on their front door and say, “I’m here”. We have this instant gratification mentality. We want success now! What is success? Unfortunately, most people measure success by things; money, cars or house. If they don’t have these things, well, then they don’t feel successful.
I’d like to offer you an alternative approach to feeling successful. I’ve personally coached hundreds of people all over the world. So many of them have said, “I know what to do (actions)”. These actions for the most part are simple to do. Here comes a very important distinction – there also simple not to do. We have a choice everyday to do these simple actions or not to do. This is the secret to success. Success doesn’t just show up some day. There is a compounding effect of your actions. By the time you admit you’ve reached success most of the work was done a long-time ago. What you need to do to reach success are actions that are simple to do and simple not to do. Those who are successful understood this theory and disciplined themselves. Those who are still searching for success are dabblers. They don’t do the actions on a consistent basis.
Take one day at a time and make sure you reward yourself every day. Create a strong belief around this theory and allow it to serve you. Success is found when no one is looking – even you.

Concentrate, Focus & Resolve

The lack of focus is one of the biggest challenges with my clients. They can’t put their attention on one task. This drives them crazy because they know this is preventing them from achieving their goals. However their not sure how to fix it. They don’t understand why they can’t see their project through to the end. What they do know is they hate themselves for having this behavior.
I’d like to share a few ideas on how to keep your focus and accomplish your goal. First you must be very clear on what you want. Let’s take a look at an example, how about losing weight. If you’re goal is to feel better or lose weight, you’re in trouble. That’s not a clear outcome, is it? If you don’t know what your target is how are you able to focus? Clarity is really simple but we make it so complicated. So it’s vitally important to get clear. I want to lose 20lbs by April, that’s clear.
Next, get over your story and get out of the way. People lack focus because they have a story why their unable to focus. I don’t have the time… money… skills etc. Your story is the life preserver to get you out of the sea of being uncomfortable. Notice you have a story and ask yourself, “If I choose to keep this story where will my life be in 3 years?” Get the story out of the way because it’s a self fulfilling prophecy.
Having an empowering belief is another nugget to help you stay focused and achieve your goals. Deep within us we have core beliefs that are guiding us unconsciously. We have surface beliefs such as I don’t have the time or I’ll make it happen. Yes these are conflicting but that’s what surface beliefs do. When you dig deeper something like “It will take too long to accomplish” comes out and that’s the limiting belief that guides you unconsciously. So condition a new empowering belief that will support you and most importantly keep you focused.